I can become mighty cynical about marriage. I know as many marriages that have failed in 5 years as have succeeded. Sometimes I daydream about holding off on the wedding card and the gift until the couple has proven that they indeed, will stay together for more than 5 years.
I don't know all the reasons people just let their marriages fade into oblivion. I don't know what makes one partner cheat. I don't know why people allow petty difference and arguments translate into hatred where there once was love.
I'm not judging here; I'm just saying I don't know how it happens and why it happens, but I sure do see it happen. A lot.
And there are times when I think it's good that a marriage comes to an end: Infidelity, Addiction, Abuse... all good reasons to leave. In fact, I have counselled people to leave in the midst of these.
And so, yes, in the midst of party planning and decorating and meal preparation, I think, at times: This better last. This is a lot of work to do for something that might end in a year or two.
However, hope springs eternal and so it did tonight. Two lovely people, both of whom I have known since infancy, deciding to spend the rest of their lives together. Cynicism fades and hope is renewed. Belief that they mean their vows, and will stand by them even when life is challenging.
Happy wedding, Tom and Becky. Happiest of marriages. Build a life of love together. Banish all pettiness from your lives. And may hope spring eternal, for both of you, every single day.
So let it be.
1 comments:
Yes! Someone said yesterday that it is a good thing that most of our family only gets married once. That's a good thing.
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